Thursday, December 2, 2010

PIXIE [May 15, 1999 - August 1, 2008]

on a very everyday afternoon a tiny little discard stepped into our lives … her eyes still seemed to contain within a glitter of hope … her tongue seemed eager to lap up any iota of warmth ... her yelp would greet any tiny crumb of love

and then she secured herself a niche deep within each one us here ... playing with us ... partying with us ... picnicking with us ... holidaying with us ... comfortable with whatever

she was omnipresent in every single aspect of our lives ... our ups & downs and ins & outs

she accepted whatever ... whenever ... with uncompromising fidelity and unconditional love

and then she went away ... or did she?

Thursday, October 28, 2010


Pedro REGO (REGO NAYAK family from Derebail, Mangalore)
Pedro was born about 1740 in Haloni, Goa.
His child Mattheus (M) was born about 1765.

Second Generation
Mattheus REGO
Mattheus married Esperanza RASQUINHA. Esperanza was born in 1775.
Children from this marriage were:
i. Lucas (M) was born about 1792.
ii. Salvador (M) was born in 1793.
iii. Pedro (M) was born about 1795 and died on Jul 12, 1856 about age 61.
iv. Bonaventure Manuel (M) was born about 1800 and died on May 8, 1860 about age 60.
v. Sebastian (M) was born about 1802.
vi. Jose (M) was born about 1804 and died on Mar 2, 1858 about age 54.
vii. Anna (F) was born about 1806 and died on Jan 8, 1888 about age 82. Anna married Jose CORDEIRO, son of Sebastian CORDEIRO and Pascoala SILVA.
viii. Lucia (F) was born about 1808. Lucia married Antony Joseph D'MELLO.
ix. Isabel (F) was born on Jul 4, 1813 and died on May 29, 1854 at age 40.
x. Romano (F) was born about 1815 and died on May 29, 1854, age 39. Romano married Salvador PINTO, son of Joseph PINTO and Magdalen D'CUNHA

Third Generation
Lucas REGO
Lucas married Francisca PINTO.
Children from this marriage were:
i. Lawrence (M) was born on Apr 30, 1817 and died on Sep 4, 1866 age 49.
ii. Francis Xavier (M) was born on Nov 28, 1821.
iii. Maria Conceicao (F) was born on Dec 5, 1824. Maria married Pedro PAIS, son of Francis PAIS and Simone BAPTIST.
iv. Regina (F) was born on Jul 24, 1827 and died on Sep 12, 1889 age 62. Regina married Antony PINTO.
v. Peter Joachim (M) was born on Feb 1, 1831

Fourth Generation
Peter Joachim REGO was one of the founders of the Urva Church in 1866.
Peter married Sabina D'SOUZA, daughter of Peter Cajetan D'SOUZA MUDARTH and Monica COELHO.
Children from this marriage were:
i. Sr Mary Agnes (F) born on Jan 18, 1860 and died in 1943 at age 83. Another name for Mary was Sr. Agnes Regina REGO.
ii. Sr Stephana Isabella Maria (F) was born on Aug 5, 1862.
iii. Pepin Francis Lucas (M) was born on Feb 21, 1865.
iv. Lawrence Philip (M) was born on Jul 10, 1868 and died in 1868.
v. Lawrence (M) was born on Jan 19, 1870.
vi. Victor Angelo (M) was born on Mar 10, 1871.
vii. Eustace Lawrence (M) was born on Sep 20, 1873.
viii. Joseph Pius (M) was born on May 14, 1877.
ix. Clement Marian Dominic (M) was born on Feb 8, 1881.
x. Bruno Canute (M) was born on Oct 16, 1882

Fifth Generation
Victor Angelo REGO was GURKAR of Derebail.
Victor married Martha Maria CORREA, daughter of Francis CORREA and Joanna ALVARES.
Children from this marriage were:
i. Joachim (M) was born in 1896 and died on Dec 24, 1915 age 19.
ii. Peter Paul (M) was born on Jun 13, 1900.
iii. Antonia Cecilia (F) was born on May 10, 1902.
iv. Leo Felix Bernard (M) was born on Jun 28, 1903 and died in 1921 age 18.
v. Stephanie Isabella Maria (F) was born on Sep 21, 1905.
vi. Alexander Theodore (M) was born on Nov 9, 1907.
vii. Robert Marcel Philip (M) was born on Jan 31, 1910 and died on May 19, 1978 age 68.
viii. Dionysius Camillo Damian (M) was born on Sep 27, 1911.
ix. Benedicta Domitilla (F) was born on May 7, 1913.
x. Lucia Carolina (F)
xi. Boniface Joachim (M) was born on May 14, 1918.

Sixth Generation
Robert Marcel Philip REGO moved to Bombay about 1930.
Robert married Celine Mary (Maria Magdalena Syria) CORREA [b:Aug 8, 1923; d:Apr 07, 1996] daughter of Salvador CORREA and Monti GOVEAS on Dec 29, 1957 & lived in Bandra.
The child from this marriage Denzil Victor Salvadore (M) was born on Oct 16, 1958

Seventh Generation
Denzil Victor Salvadore REGO
(Robert Marcel Philip/Victor Angelo/Peter Joachim/Lucas/Mattheus/Pedro)
Denzil married Charmaine Magdalene ATHAIDE [b:Oct 10, 1956] daughter of Dominic ATHAIDE and Martine PEREIRA on Dec 29, 1984
Children from this marriage are:
i. Cynzya Chloe Marcel (F) was born on Jun 14, 1987
ii. Krysyn Denzyl Shane (M) was born on Mar 22, 1990
iii. Shayne Robert Dominic (M) was born on Jul 16, 1991

Saturday, October 23, 2010

build ... with a child's heart

Hot sun. Salty air. Rhythmic waves.

A little girl is on her knees scooping and packing the sand with plastic shovels into a bright blue bucket. Then she upends the bucket on the surface and lifts it. And, to the delight of the little architect, a castle tower is created.

All afternoon she will work. Spooning out the moat. Packing the walls. Bottle tops will be sentries. Popsicle sticks will be bridges. A sandcastle will be built.

Big city. Busy streets. Rumbling traffic.

A man is in his office. At his desk he shuffles papers into stacks and delegates assignments. He cradles the phone on his shoulder and punches the keyboard with his fingers. Numbers are juggled and contracts are signed and much to the delight of the man, a profit is made.

All his life he will work. Formulating the plans. Forecasting the future. Annuities will be sentries. Capital gains will be bridges. An empire will be built.

Two builders of two castles. They have much in common. They shape granules into grandeurs. They see nothing and make something. They are diligent and determined. And for both the tide will rise and the end will come.

Yet that is where the similarities cease. For the girl sees the end while the man ignores it.

Watch the child as the dusk approaches.

As the waves near, the wise child jumps to her feet and begins to clap. There is no sorrow. No fear. No regret. She knew this would happen. She is not surprised. And when the great breaker crashes into his castle and her masterpiece is sucked into the sea, she smiles. Utterly delighted, she picks up her tools, takes her father's hand, and goes home.

The grownup, however, is not so wise.

As the wave of years collapses on his castle he is terrified. He hovers over the sandy monument to protect it. He blocks the waves from the walls he has made. Salt-water soaked and shivering he snarls at the incoming tide. "It's my castle," he defies. The ocean need not respond ... both know to whom the sand belongs.

I don't know much about sandcastles. ... but children do. Watch them and learn. Go ahead and build ... but build with a child's heart.

When the sun sets and the tides take ... applaud. Salute the process of life and go home.

Monday, August 30, 2010


( Mumbai Chapter Launch Awareness Run – August 29, 2010)

When it rains, it pours ... Quite literally so it was at the CLEAN SPORTS INDIA "Awareness Rally" in Mumbai this morning in terms of sports glamour, participation as well as the heavens above.

As thespian Tom Alter introduced one participating star after another from our nation's sporting firmament, it was clear to the 350 odd participants who braved the inclement weather that CLEAN SPORTS INDIA's Mumbai Chapter meant serious business.

The grandstand included Chess GrandMaster Pravin Thipsay, Equestrian Champ BVP Rao, Athletes Vandana Rao, Reet Abraham and Savio D'souza, Marathoner Sathyabama, Swimmer Pallavi Shetty, Table Tennis virtuosos husband and wife duo Kamlesh Mehta and Mona Lisa, Badminton exponent Leroy D'Sa, revered Indian Hockey Captain MM Somaiya and his compatriot from the world of women's hockey Sybil Miranda and bollywood star Rajat Barmecha.

In his inaugural address, CLEAN SPORTS INDIA National Convener, BVP Rao came out strongly against the face of Indian Sport turned tyrant, Suresh Kalmadi and his coterie, whose negative doings in Indian Sport called for a total re-haul of the system, wherein Sportspersons of caliber needed to take charge, they being closer to the pulse of our budding young sportspeople. After very encouraging launches of the CLEAN SPORTS movement in Delhi and Bangalore, the response in Mumbai, he said was over-whelming.

The Awareness Rally witnessed representation from across Mumbai, allowing for participation from all age groups. Vandana Rao and Pravin Thipsay led the 350+ strong group across 4 kms to and fro NCPA, all enthusiastic in their bid to drive home a point for Sports cleansed of political manipulation and rid of performance enhancing substance abuse. The Mumbai Chapter team, Vandana Rao, Tom Alter, Pravin Thipsay, Sybil Miranda, Lenny Sampey and myself are glad that the first step towards this goal had been successfully taken and we are sure that the positive vibes we have received throughout the mega polis of Mumbai will not let things lie, but take them to their logical end. Thanks to all whose efforts encouraged us and especially to the YMCA International for all their unstinting support.


Friday, June 25, 2010

in the silence will come the echo ...

The baby is teething, the children are fighting, and you just have to get dinner ready. Okay. One of these days you'll shout, "Why don't you grow up amd act your age?" ... and they will

Or ... "You guys get outside and find yourself something to do and don't slam the door."
... and they won't

You'll straighten up their bedrooms all neat and tidy with thrash discarded, bed-spread tucked and smoothed, toys all displayed on the shelves, books in place, hangers in the closets, animals caged, and you'll say out loud, "Now I want you to stay this way!" ... they will

Then you'll prepare a perfect dinner with a proper wholesome side dish, salad that hasn't been picked to death, a cake with no finger traces through the frosting, and you'll say, "Now there's a meal for company."
... you'll eat it alone
And you'll say, ... "I want complete privacy on the phone! No dancing around, no pantomimes, no demolition crews! Silence! Do you hear me?" ... you'll have it

No more plastic tablecloths stained with curry, no more anxious nights tending to viral fevers, no more dandelion bouquets, no more iron-on patches, no more wet-knotted shoe strings, no more tight boots, or rubber bands on pony tails.

Now, imagine your lipstick with a point. No baby sitter on nights out. Washing clothes only once a week. No PTA meetings, no car pools, no blaring music and parties, having your own space, no more Christmas presents made out of bits of scrap and paste, no more wet kisses, no tooth fairy, no giggles in the dark, no knees to bandage.

Only a memory of a voice crying ... "Why don't you grow up?"
... and in the silence will come the echo ... "I did"

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Bandra … we love you

BANDRA ... a sky view

History records the first known settlement in the area as far back as 600BC. Part of Ashoka’s empire three hundred years later, the place came under the hindu Silhara dynasty from 900 to 1300AD.

The Portuguese, in 1534, took possession of the seven islands of
Bombay by force from the Sultans of Gujarat who had made it part of their sultanate since 1343. In 1543 they gave the Jesuits the sole ownership of Bandra, a tiny fishing village inhabited by Koli fishermen and farmers.

Tradition has it that Bandra was originally known as Vandra or Ape, the home of monkeys, then Bandor as the Portuguese called it in 1505, later Bandera, Bandura, Bandore, Pandara, Bandorah, Bandara and finally Bandra, a railway sign board finalised it at the end of the last century. There are other views on the origin of the name, one stating that it is derived from a Portuguese princess and another more plausible one that it is a corruption of Bandar-gah in Persian (Bandar is a common word for Port in Iran). Vandre in Marathi and Bandar in Persian both mean port and come from the same Sanskrit root word. It is referred to as "Bandora" as seen on gravestones in the cemetery of St Andrew church.

Reports on the exact date vary, but either in 1570 or 1620 the Jesuits built a church and a college in Bandra under the invocation of Santa Anna (St Anne) on very extensive grounds. Judging from the remains of foundations of old walls the enclosure extended from the point near Mahim Causeway where now stands a mosque, ran along the seashore as far as the end of what was Bundarwadi, took a northerly turn across Godhbundar road (now Swami Vivekananda road) as far as D’Monte street and then went diagonally straight to the present Bandra railway station, thus enclosing Bundarwadi, Madamwadi, Dadaboiwadi, a part of Hill road and the whole of the Bombay municipal slaughter house (now BEST depot) compound. The chapel and college of St Anne commanded the frontage of the creek, almost facing St Michael church at Mahim.

In 1640 the Portuguese built Castella de Aguada (Fort of the Waterpoint) at Land's End, a strategically located watchtower overlooking the Mahim Bay and the islands of Worli to the south, the Arabian Sea to the west and the northern sea route into Mumbai habour, a large estuary, which was later reclaimed from the sea in the nineteenth century. During the Portuguese rule, it was armed with seven cannons and other smaller guns as defense. A freshwater spring in the vicinity supplied potable water to passing ships, thus lending the fort its name. After the decline of the Portuguese in the early 18th century, the British partially demolished the fort as a precautionary measure against the Marathas sensing an impending threat to their possessions.

When King Charles married Catherina of Portugal in 1661, Bombay was given to England as part of her dowry. Salcette was not part of this treaty and remained with the Portuguese. In 1739 the island was invaded by the Marathas; it was ruled by them until 1774 when Bandra was regained when the Portuguese troops were aided by the English during the First Anglo-Maratha War and a slaughterhouse was built on the same spot of victory and assigned to the Dakhni Muslims to operate.

In 1830, the British donated large parts of Salcette Island, including Land's End, to Byramjee Jeejeebhoy, a Parsi philanthropist. Jeejeeboy then established his residence on the hill where the fort is located, and the cape was renamed Byramjee Jeejeebhoy Point.

The chapel of Mount  Mary was built around 1640 at the top of the hill at Bandra’s southern tip. Tradition has it that it was destroyed in 1738 during a Maratha raid. The statue of the Virgin Mary was recovered from the sea by fishermen and temporarily installed in St Andrew church, before being shifted to the rebuilt Mount Mary church in 1761, that year marking the beginning of Bandra feast, an eight day celebration in the Blessed Virgin’s honour, starting on the Sunday following her birthday on September 8. To this day the celebration continues and the statue is venerated by pilgrims from far and near and many miracles are attributed to the Virgin Mary by all communities. The architect of Mount Mary's church was Bombay’s Shahpoorjee Chandabhoy, the first time ever a non catholic was assigned to a catholic monument. It was built to serve the garrison posted at Castella de Aguada. In 1879, Jamsetjee Jeejeebhoy constructed a flight of steps from foot of Mt Mary hill to north side of church known as the Degrados de Bomanjee (steps of Bomanjee). The Basilica of Our Lady of the Mount as it stands today was built in 1904 at a cost of a lakh of rupees.

The Kunbi farmers founded St Andrew Church in 1733, which has the distinctive Portuguese-style fa├žade. The wall enclosing the compound of St Andrew Church was built by a Parsi, Manockjee Sorabjee Ashburner in 1862 as is recorded on a slab on the main gate of the enclosure. The Portuguese built several churches in Bandra facilitating its unique distinction of being a town having the most Roman Catholic churches anywhere in the world, all within a four sq/km area; six churches each with their own parishes, and the Basilica of Our Lady of the Mount. The churches beside the Basilica, St Anne and St Andrew are St Peter (1853), Our Lady of Mount Carmel (1890), St Theresa (1948), and St Francis of Assisi.

Bandra has over a hundred and fifty crosses at various places, many built to ward off the decade long plague epidemic that struck between 1896 and 1906. The oldest cross is the one relocated in St Andrew church compound. It was originally at St Anne but when the building was blown up on the orders of the English to prevent it falling into Maratha hands in the year 1737, the cross, its only original remnant, was relocated. It stands 17ft high and is carved out of a single stone, on its surface thirty-nine emblems of the passion of Jesus Christ.

Bandra remained a village with plantations of rice and vegetables separated from the industrial town of
Bombay by a tidal creek which Portuguese called Bandora and the English changed to Mahim creek. Crossing this creek was by ferry until, after many boats capsized, a causeway was built by Lady Jamsethji in 1843 at a cost of a little over a lakh and a half rupees. It was designed by Lt Crawford and opened to public in 1845.

The first school founded in Bandra after Bombay passed on to the English was St. Andrew’s Parish School started by the Vicar, Fr Francisco de Mello in 1780, to teach Catechism to the children of the parish. This later became St Andrew High School.

St Stanislaus High School, started in 1863 as an orphanage for native boys by the Jesuits of St Peter’s church, became a high school in 1923. It was first English medium school in the suburbs and maintains its status as a premier educational institution to date as it approaches its sesquicentennial.

In 1863, the first four F.C. (Daughters of the Cross) sisters came to Bandora (Bandra) and started a day school for village children, that eventually evolved into
St Joseph Convent High School in 1868.

The first railway service, the Bombay Baroda Central Indian Railway (BBCIR) was inaugurated on April 12th 1867 with one train per day between Virar and Bombay, Six years later the frequency was increased to 24 and today over 900 trains stop at Bandra each day. A handful of Bandra’s residents had motor vehicles; the other’s just walked to the railway station. Till as late as the 1930's Bandra had only one bus service from Pali naka down to Hill road to the Railway station.

There was a section of Muslims in the eastern part of Bandra, presently across the railway lines, called Navpada (Naupada) previously known as Naopara. These Kokani Sunni Musalmans or Konkani Muslims, all Hanafi, had migrated from inner parts of Thane district like Vasai, Nalasopara, Bhiwandi and Rabodi. Nine prominent Kokni Muslim families inhabited here, so it was named as Nav (meaning nine in Marathi) and Pada (meaning village). They built the Kokani masjid (Konkani mosque), and a cemetery and lakes, which can be traced back more than 300 years. The inhabitants of this area mainly ran cotton hand looms. By the introduction of power looms in
Bombay city, this industry died and they started the milk business. With the introduction of the railway line the area was divided as Navpada East and Navpada West. A major part of lands of this area were acquired by the Railways, where today Bandra Station, Bandra Terminus (earlier Bandra marshalling yard) and the railway lines exist. The present lake called Bandra Talao or Lotus Tank formerly known as Motha Reservoir was one of the properties of these Kokani Muslims, which was later acquired by the Municipal Corporation for maintenance.

Along with
Mount Mary hill, Bandra is home to Pali hill. Although many bungalows were built in Bandra during the boom years of the 1860s and 70s, this fashionable area, now inhabited by the glitterati, saw the first constructions only in the 1880s. A 18 hole golf course called Danda Green with an English style club house, all ensconced in lush greenery, sat on the top of this hill with membership reserved for the British who lived on the hill. Each cottage on the hill had a stable for horses owned by its occupants.

The Tata Agiary on
Hill Rd was built by Tata in memory of his wife in 1884.

The English found in this newly acquired
territory of Salcette thousands of Indian families who were converted to Christianity. Christians in Bandra were mostly of the Koli and Bhandari castes, originally from Bombay Salcette, Bassein, and Thana, as well as Kunbi farmers who migrated to the island from Colaba, because the ban on the fish manure they used. It was from these families the English drew their supplies of clerks, assistants and secretaries; at that time there was hardly a Hindu Koli, Parsi or Muslim, the other communities who peopled Bandra, who could read Roman characters. There was also a large influx of Christians from Goa, Mangalore and its Carnatac environs and Kerala. Many native elders worked for the British East India Company and this prompted local converts to adopt the misnomer 'East Indians' and form the East Indian Association on May 26th 1887 to distinguish the 'sons of the soil', who were the first employees of the company, from Christians who came from further down the west coast and shared the same names and religion, as well as vied for the same jobs. The East Indian Association runs the fabled Bandra Gymkhana to date, primary membership still reserved for East Indians.

Bandra consisted of villages Sherly, Malla, Rajan, Kantwadi, Waroda, Ranwar, Boran, Pali, Chuim and Chimbai. Ranwar had a tennis court and the famed Ranwar Club was popular for Christmas and New Year Eve dances. Supari Talao, Bandra’s signature sports venue, actually had a ‘talao’ on its eastern half, and was home to American troops during World War II, who stole the hearts of the local children by sharing their rations with them on their way to school.

Each of the two waterfronts that embrace Bandra have had their own unique place in the lives of their inhabitants. The bay strewn with rocks and sand facing the causeway to Mahim and the city was the source of livelihood to a large fishing community of Kolis as well as a unique experience for us growing up there, witnesses to its monsoon fury as well as its tranquil calm, home to a wide variety of aquatic life. Each rock cluster was given a different name according to the purpose it served. The paddle boats, the walls of fishing nets and damns of rocks (kalwa) were a treat that still endures. The tireless fisher folk were a source of enlightenment, their camaraderie, discipline and hard work that went into bringing each fresh catch and themselves safely back home. Then in the mid 1960’s with grandiose plans in the name of ‘progress’, a major portion of the bay was reclaimed (hence Bandra Reclamation), and the local Kolis forever lost their paradise. This bay was lipped with cottages and buildings built in the 1940’s and 50’s with relevant names. Wavelash, where I have resided for my 50 odd years, as well as all the other structures here had their sea fronts lashed by waves twice each day. All of these structures were in large compounds where we as children would spend the whole day, each different group at their own game.
St John the Baptist road running along these compounds leads to the steps upto Mount Mary Basilica. Folklore has it that in times before the 1950’s pilgrims would traverse this stretch in processions with fire torches and beating drums to ward of tigers and other wild animals that the lush forests in the vicinity were home to. The other waterfront has three distinct stretches, one from Band Stand along BJ road to St Andrew's church, the second skirting Chimbai fishing village, and the third, laced with lush mangroves, runs along Carter road to Danda fishing village. Chimbai and Danda are where the last few Kolis of Bandra still manage to eke out a living from their catch at sea. Among the waterfronts Band Stand stood tall, catering to myriad visitors, especially families, all through the week and more so at week ends, when in the days of yore a band actually took the stand, regaling a sizable audience.

Godbundar road, Bazaar road, Hill road, Pali road and BJ road are the five oldest roads in Bandra. Godbundar road originally ran from Mahim causeway, skirted Bazaar road, went around the Bandra talao and continued on to Godbundar. It was later made straight by cutting through the talao. Bazaar road began at Godbundar road, opposite the mosque and ran through the market keeping close to the coast, now the Bandra Reclamation. Its two kilometre stretch is home to a Jain temple, a Ram mandir, a Hanuman temple, a Khoja mosque, a Catholic chapel and a Sikh gurduwara. Hill Road starting from Bandra railway station went through middle of Bandra town, past St Andrew church to terminate at the foot of the
Mount Mary hill. Pali road began at St Peter church, cut through Pali village and continued on till Danda. Byramjee Jeejebhoy road started from St Andrew church and went on to Land's End. It was built by Jeejebhoy and opened to public in 1878. Many roads in Bandra like Perry, Carter, Bullock, Kane and Bates were named after British collectors and magistrates.

The families of Bandra’s yesteryears were large and traditions handed down from generations were faithfully adhered to ... many still are. Marriages were an eight day celebration; from Thursday to Thursday for a Sunday wedding. The whole village was invited to celebrate along with the extended families and no one was excused for not being there. Thursday was pig slaughter day. Friday was to make papads to go down with the locally brewed spirit. On Saturday ‘fugias’ and ‘varias’ were prepared and water was drawn from the village well to bathe the bride and groom ... a tradition called ‘paani’ followed by East Indians to date. Sunday was the nuptial Mass followed by a grand reception with a sumptuous menu laced with ‘kimaat’, a concoction of the same locally brewed spirits and selected condiments. Monday was the day of rest when the remaining food was finished. Tuesday was time for ‘pos’, when the feet of the guests were washed in exchange for cash. There was a farewell dinner on Wednesday and the guests left on Thursday by which time ‘honeymoon’ for the bridal couple was supposedly over.

Did that honeymoon ever end? ... it never really did ... i know for sure 
... it's the Bandra we love!

(with inputs from my 'good old Bandra' friends as well as some new ones, documented history and info available online)